According to divorce statistics, lack of
communication is one of the top reasons for divorce in marriages whose figure
is close to 50% in the U.S. The survival of a relationship depends on factors
such as communication and trust. Note, it does not mean that you have to agree
on everything, but it is how you disagree healthily.
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For effective communication to work, it means that any time
there’s a problem, you talk it out. When you choose the silent path, things
keep piling up, and eventually, you can’t take it anymore. Great communication
brings transparency into the relationship which makes solving issues easier.
Importance of a relationship
People who have undergone divorce may tell you how difficult
it is maintaining a relationship, but it doesn’t have to be complicated. Once
you know your partner and how they think, it makes you adjust and more
comfortable to maintain it. Having an open communication helps you build trust
which makes communication even better.
1. It helps show
support
Of all the things that make marriage complete, communication
is one of the tops. Communication helps show your partner that you support
them. It helps create an avenue where your partner can share their feelings
with you without mockery.
Communication makes
you closer; the more you talk, the easier it is to talk about things that have
or are happening in your life. The relationship is a support system for you as
a couple. Therefore, it is essential that your significant other feels safe to
talk to you because they know you won’t judge them.
2. Solidifies the
relationship
A healthy relationship involves talking to your partner
often. Your partner should be your best friend, somebody to talk to when things
are not going as planned. As a couple, you each have a responsibility for each
other. Show you are concerned; when you get to the house from work ask “how was
your day?” “is everything okay?” The fact that you ask questions help build a
type of trust that makes the bond even stronger.
Once you establish trust, you can open up about your
finances. As we know, finances are a huge part of a couple’s life, and you need
to lay everything on the table; any outstanding loans or house you own.
Sometimes, you may have gone to open a new bank account only
to be told you can’t because you are in ChexSystems. It is frustrating, but
once you talk to your partner, they give you an option of filing a Chexsystems dispute. This is
probably something you would not know if you had not talked to him/her.
3. An act of love
A relationship gives you time to get to know each other.
Each of you has their expectations. However, they are just expectations until
you both communicate how you feel. Take time to understand your partner and see
what makes them angry, happy or sad.
When you are both aware of what you want, it is easy to
adapt to each other. Sometimes, fights are healthy because they bring out a
negative side of each of you. Nobody is perfect, and it helps you realize that
there are things that you need to address. Talk about the argument and see how
you can move forward. Arguments don’t mean that you hate each other, but
rather, they help you know there are things you need to work on.
As long as you are both open to working on your differences,
the relationship will be stable. Always remember that even as you are fighting,
you both want the best for the relationship.
Here are some tricks to ensuring you last a lifetime with your partner:
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Avoid discussing important things on text
Most often, it is easy to misinterpret texts. In case you
need to talk about important stuff, pick the phone and call or most preferably,
a one-on-one.
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Practice honesty
Don’t pretend to be happy when you are not. If you are
uncomfortable about not knowing who your husband/wife hangs out with, be sure
to point it out. Don’t keep things to yourself so that you can pretend things
are fine.
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Avoid using accusatory statements
Instead of using accusatory statements, you’d better
approach a discussion in a way that the other person doesn’t feel like you are
attacking them. Use words such as “we” or “I feel….” Always remember that pointing fingers only
makes the situation worse.
When resolving conflicts, ensure that
you do it in person. Avoid lashing out at each other on the phone as this only
makes things worse. Always act as you are one unit with your better half.
Communication is not the only thing that makes relationships
work, but it sure is a significant contributor. At the back of your mind, you
should always know that conflict does not mean breaking up, it only says some
things should be discussed.
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