3 Reasons Why Communication Between Couples Is Important

According to divorce statistics, lack of communication is one of the top reasons for divorce in marriages whose figure is close to 50% in the U.S. The survival of a relationship depends on factors such as communication and trust. Note, it does not mean that you have to agree on everything, but it is how you disagree healthily. 

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For effective communication to work, it means that any time there’s a problem, you talk it out. When you choose the silent path, things keep piling up, and eventually, you can’t take it anymore. Great communication brings transparency into the relationship which makes solving issues easier.

Importance of a relationship

People who have undergone divorce may tell you how difficult it is maintaining a relationship, but it doesn’t have to be complicated. Once you know your partner and how they think, it makes you adjust and more comfortable to maintain it. Having an open communication helps you build trust which makes communication even better.

1.    It helps show support
Of all the things that make marriage complete, communication is one of the tops. Communication helps show your partner that you support them. It helps create an avenue where your partner can share their feelings with you without mockery.

 Communication makes you closer; the more you talk, the easier it is to talk about things that have or are happening in your life. The relationship is a support system for you as a couple. Therefore, it is essential that your significant other feels safe to talk to you because they know you won’t judge them.

2.    Solidifies the relationship
A healthy relationship involves talking to your partner often. Your partner should be your best friend, somebody to talk to when things are not going as planned. As a couple, you each have a responsibility for each other. Show you are concerned; when you get to the house from work ask “how was your day?” “is everything okay?” The fact that you ask questions help build a type of trust that makes the bond even stronger. 

Once you establish trust, you can open up about your finances. As we know, finances are a huge part of a couple’s life, and you need to lay everything on the table; any outstanding loans or house you own. 

Sometimes, you may have gone to open a new bank account only to be told you can’t because you are in ChexSystems. It is frustrating, but once you talk to your partner, they give you an option of filing a Chexsystems dispute. This is probably something you would not know if you had not talked to him/her.

3.    An act of love
A relationship gives you time to get to know each other. Each of you has their expectations. However, they are just expectations until you both communicate how you feel. Take time to understand your partner and see what makes them angry, happy or sad. 

When you are both aware of what you want, it is easy to adapt to each other. Sometimes, fights are healthy because they bring out a negative side of each of you. Nobody is perfect, and it helps you realize that there are things that you need to address. Talk about the argument and see how you can move forward. Arguments don’t mean that you hate each other, but rather, they help you know there are things you need to work on. 

As long as you are both open to working on your differences, the relationship will be stable. Always remember that even as you are fighting, you both want the best for the relationship.

Here are some tricks to ensuring you last a lifetime with your partner:

        Avoid discussing important things on text
Most often, it is easy to misinterpret texts. In case you need to talk about important stuff, pick the phone and call or most preferably, a one-on-one.
        Practice honesty
Don’t pretend to be happy when you are not. If you are uncomfortable about not knowing who your husband/wife hangs out with, be sure to point it out. Don’t keep things to yourself so that you can pretend things are fine.
        Avoid using accusatory statements
Instead of using accusatory statements, you’d better approach a discussion in a way that the other person doesn’t feel like you are attacking them. Use words such as “we” or “I feel….”  Always remember that pointing fingers only makes the situation worse.
When resolving conflicts, ensure that you do it in person. Avoid lashing out at each other on the phone as this only makes things worse. Always act as you are one unit with your better half.

Communication is not the only thing that makes relationships work, but it sure is a significant contributor. At the back of your mind, you should always know that conflict does not mean breaking up, it only says some things should be discussed. 

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